“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”
Sheryl Sandberg’s favorite poster mantra from Facebook. She said she would speak out more for women if she weren’t as afraid.
I have worked at Facebook and there are posters with quotes like this everywhere. They encouraged my creativity juice, helped me remember the greatness I forgot I had in me, and most importantly, they remind me of my purpose.
Yesterday I met with two girls who want to start a Lean In Circle for engineering students at UCLA. Quickly we all got on the same page and less than 12 hours later, we have a Organization Page and our first meeting (more like a picnic) up on Facebook. This shows me that when you meet like minded people, you inspire each other to do extraordinary things. I read Chapter 10 from Sheryl’s Lean In today.
It mentions the need for us to talk about the gender issue comfortably and acknowledge our mistakes in approaching the problem. We shouldn’t whine and we are not asking for favorable retreat. Simply, we need not to be afraid to bring out the subconscious or unconscious bias to the conscious. The more we share about ourselves, the more we realize that we are not alone. Others share the same fears and troubles too, and they are eager to find a way to make a change just like we are.
Looking back at my tenure at the CS and engineering clubs, I proudly discover that I have been very active. I created numerous events, I started new traditions, I met intelligent friends, I mentored younger students, and I played on a team. Nevertheless, recently I realized that despite my generous contribution, I was too busy surfacing around only the worldly matters. Never did I ever remember to slow down and dig deep introspectively or extrospectively. I stopped asking the why before worrying about the how for the what. Teaching someone a skill is straightforward. Shifting a culture is obscure, but so much more rewarding. To raise an opinion that is ahead of one’s time and try to shape the society into accepting the innovative thinking is noble yet dangerous. The people that I truly admire are those who attempted or are attempting to take on such noble tasks. Lincoln, Jane Addams, Grace Hopper, Arianna Huffington, Sheryl Sandberg, and so many others chose to challenge the status quo and bring out a different voice.
I went to a #SleepRevolution event a few days ago and I was lucky enough to meet Arianna in person. She is radiant, amiable, and incredibly gifted with people. She knows exactly the words to use and the right thing to say to put you at ease, to convey a complex thought, and to convince people the significance of an abstract idea. I believe no one would deny the importance of sleep, but very few actually prioritize sleep or emphasize the value it has on our society. Arianna does an amazing job of making sleep one of the coolest trends for 2016 and one of the most important things we should focus on as a culture. In the past, she has redefined success in her best seller Thrive. It is no easy ambition to change the way people think and what they value. Only the absolutely GREAT people think of doing it. They are not afraid of being called out or being objected because their belief is so strong and they are patient to welcome that change.